“Are You the One for Me/Real Moments” is actually two separate self-help books written by Barbara De Angelis, one of the many talking heads of wisdom on Oprah. I suspect these two books were bound together by the publisher as a 2 for 1 Bargain Book package.
My sister was switching apartments a few years back. Much later, I discovered the book in my apartment and decided to give it a shot. Being single, I need all the help I can get.
I ran through both books. It’s been a while since I read it (more than a few months ago) so I don’t exactly remember the details. Being similar, my brain is blending them together.
It’s common sense advice, which I need, because I have no common sense. In a nutshell, Ms. De Angelis says something like “Don’t date/marry an asshole. Leave. You deserve better.”
Good advice. Unfortunately, I’m actually looking for books on dating/social skills for women who are a) currently not in a relationship, b) casually dating, and c) shifting from casual dating to serious relationships. Those books are meant for people who are already in serious relationships/marriage and are reassessing their situation.
Ms. De Angelis kept on bringing up a point that I’m still pondering. According to her, having a common interest is not the way to cement a bond. (She gives an example of having the hots for a Ren Faire juggler in her youth, only to discover that he wasn’t all that.) But—how are you supposed to meet people and have stuff to do together and talk about without both partners being part of a larger entity? I have a myriad of interests, and I think joining clubs is a good way to meet people outside of family and work.