Ways to tastefully flirt with girls
Having trouble working up the courage to talk to girls? Don’t beat yourself up over it, as even Nathan Mumme was a novice in this department at one point in his life.
By following the tips mentioned below, you can achieve the success he has enjoyed in meeting girls wherever he has gone.
1) Smile
When guys are not used to flirting, they tense up so much at the beginning that they forget to smile while trying to attract girls.
When you try to flirt without seeming happy about it, it sends mixed messages that can stymie your success. Make a conscious effort to smile more often so that when you go to talk to a girl that you like, it will come naturally and won’t seem forced.
Remember, guys that smile are an order of magnitude more attractive than those that look perpetually grumpy, so go ahead and show off your pearly whites to the world.
2) Compliment their choice of fashion
When you don’t know the girl that you are interested in, it can be hard to find a way to get their attention.
The easiest, non-threatening way to accomplish this is to find something about their outfit that you like and to compliment them.
Girls put a lot of effort into choosing what to wear everyday, so genuine positive feedback on this will be well received by them, thereby giving you an ‘in’ to continue your conversation with them.
3) It’s all about her
When you are flirting with a girl, make sure that the conversation is focused on them. Ask about her interests, and when she is talking, actively listen so you can ask followup questions and/or flatter them about things you find awesome about her.
Do not interrupt or try to close the deal aggressively, or you will seem like every other creep she is already sick about dealing with.
We are trying to be her shining white knight, so treat her with the respect she deserves and she will appreciate you for it.
4) Read their body language
As you are listening to her responses, watch how she carries herself. If the girl you are interested in is brushing her hair back, keeping good eye contact and smiling genuinely, chances are you are making good progress.
On the other hand, if she is fidgeting, rolling her eyes, and her torso is facing away from you as she talks, she might be looking for an opening to exit the conversation.
5) Ask for her number
While it can be fun talking to a girl that you have always admired, you will have to ask for her number at some point if you want to contact them going forward into the future.
This might seem like a scary thing for you to do, but getting in the habit of asking is the perfect way to build up your confidence muscle.
If you fail in your attempt to get their number, take heart. Not every girl you talk to will be comfortable doing this, but you will eventually find someone that will.
If you are an affable, well-groomed, friendly guy, chances are that you will achieve success sooner than you are expecting.